Let us eat cake and talk about death
I started a virtual Death Cafe shortly after starting my practice. I discontinued after a about a year due to other obligations, but I’m starting them again. I will host another community Death Cafe-style virtual event on Tuesday, May 14 at 6:30 PM ET. It is free and open to anyone, and the conversations can be about anything that you feel you need to talk about. Holding these conversations by Zoom allows everyone to participate and gives us all a sense of togetherness, but if you’re not ready to share with strangers, I’m available for private chats as well. I’m still looking for a location to do an in-person event locally where I can also livestream for those who want to attend remotely. A few people have asked about Instagram or Facebook Live, but those venues don’t facilitate conversations between each other, which is the benefit and foundation of a Death Cafe. I also am available in my private group Solace Sanctuary if people would feel more comfortable carrying on discussions or continuing discussion that way. It is a safe and sacred space where anyone can talk about death, dying, aging, grief and other “big” life and death stuff.
The Tradition of National Wreaths Across America
Saturday was National Wreaths Across America. I donated a wreath and spent some time at the National Cemetery in New Albany last weekend in honor of the occasion. National Wreaths Across America is a heartfelt and patriotic tradition that takes place annually, bringing communities together to honor and remember the brave men and women who have served in every branch of the United States Armed Forces. This poignant event, marked by the laying of wreaths on the graves of veterans, symbolizes gratitude, remembrance, and a collective commitment to never forget the sacrifices made for freedom, but I believe it can be a wonderful opportunity to honor and remember our own beloved deceased loved ones, whether or not they were veterans.
Tips for visiting a loved one who’s being cared for at home this holiday season
Are you visiting someone being cared for by member of your family during this holiday season? Don’t be a jerk. Here’s some etiquette for your visit. First things first: I can promise you the person(s) providing care is trying their very best. I can promise you, they are making themselves sick, they feel guilty, they […]
The Unseen Plight of Caregivers
Most caregivers provide support with activities of daily living, such as bathing, walking, standing, using the toilet, dressing, cooking, eating and other household chores. The caregiver also provide care for a broad range of issues – chronic, disabling or terminal illness, physical or mental illness and decline – and often as the caregiver and the person being cared for age the care required intensifies. From more simple daily tasks, caregivers may also need to assist with more complicated and complex medical care such as giving injections, or facilitating tube feedings, and care for catheters or colostomies. All of this caregiving taxes the caregiver’s mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. We’re going to talk about “Caregiver Syndrome” today and explain how it impacts those around us with some eye-opening statistics and insights from experts.
Are our families ready to care for our aging population?
An overwhelming majority, three-quarters, of respondents think that it is a natural duty of children to care for their parents as they age. (Although only 58% of those who are aged 65+ believe their children have a duty to care for them.) Almost as many people who stated they believed it was a child’s duty to take care of their parents – 71% – reported they wanted to die at home. (It is assumed from the natural decline of old age.)
Are we ready for the gray wave?
In 2014, fifteen percent of the United States population consisted of Americans aged 65 or older. Every single day 10,000 people turn 65 in this country. The oldest boomer alive this year is 77. By 2030, every single Baby Boomer will be aged 65. People who reach 65 could be expected to live another 18.4 years on average.
Cycles of Life Women’s Retreat
Co-hosting a one day women’s retreat with this beautiful soul on June 17. Why do you want to be there? Because in a chaotic world that defines success as busyness and overwork, we all need a break. Step away from the routine stress and get a new perspective with a clear head. There are many […]
Better Sleep Month
It’s Better Sleep Month. So far, I’ve gone to bed earlier and gotten up earlier a few times. But it’s a goal I’m striving toward. Also, affirming to myself that I am a morning person to change that mindset. So many things I’m working on between now and my birthday.
What you said
s a departure doula, I help people facing illness, decline, death, dying and loss experiences of all kinds think about what they have learned about themselves and write legacy letters, create ethical wills or complete legacy projects. You shouldn’t wait to begin the journey of self-exploration and compiling your wisdom and advice for the people you love. Knowing your authentic self is the first sep in loving yourself, which is the first step in loving others well and changing the world.
You are enough
May is Mental Health Awareness Month with the theme “You are enough.” The messaging fits a series of videos I’m working on about identity, existentialism and existential crises. Stay tuned for more.
