Want to know how to help someone you love deal with loss or trauma? I recommend “What Happened To You?” by Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph. D and Oprah Winfrey.

It emphasizes the importance of connectedness and being present for those you love. We can all learn how to be truly present with those we love, and it’s one of the most powerful skills we can use to help and heal.

“You don’t want to talk about the pain or loss or fear for forty-five minutes. You want to talk with a really good friend for maybe two or three minutes about some aspect of it. … Moments. Fully-present, powerful but brief.”

Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD

Have you read the book? Do you agree? Let me know below.